11 things that the couples that last do in bed |The Huffington Post Life

You certainly know, for having crossed them in your life, couples who last and who have this spark of life in the gaze which lets us glimpse that their sex life is always as good as at the beginning.Maybe you are one of these couples?If so, how can you maintain this creativity to bed for years?What are the little things that keep this erotic intelligence between you that many envy you.

The x little things: let us guess!I ask the question to these couples who last and last.

• Do you have a separate room?This experience can be stimulating to awaken desire towards your partner.Because the "taste" of the other is cultivated.If you have been lying next to the same person for years, the sexual momentum may be lost, is diminishing in habits of the wearing of good old pajamas (top and low including) which put the erogenous zones andthat prevent skin with skin to skin.Also pay attention to the eternal fusional embraces that suffocate bodies and indifferential.Do not sleep daily in the same bed stirs up desire towards the other, helps us to find our vital, sexual territory.Surprises can arise during night or morning visits.Surprising his partner is an interesting erotic game.

• Do you wear your spouse's top of pajamas?It is obvious that for you gentlemen it is a feat!On the other hand for you, ladies this can not only be comfortable, however it can even arouse desire.Your skin breathes and, moreover, as this pajamas carries the smell of your partner's testosterones, this will awaken in you a healthy hormone to desire: dopamine.When your partner approaches you, it finds its smell and yours.This hormonal cocktail can be most stimulating.You can always add your perfume.On the other hand, if your partner does not wear pajamas, buy your silk men's pajama clothing and wear your perfume.The effect is almost assured.

• Do you cultivate erotic intelligence?A key for a sexuality to continue.Thus the couples that last play eroticism in many ways.Naughty text, surprise invitation, playing this stranger who meets "by chance" in a bar this foreign woman (her partner) and begins a game of seduction.Very attractive!

• Do you wear inspiring underwear?You know the latter who suggest the erogenous zones and which are easy to remove.My ladies, the active clothes must be comfortable otherwise your sensual movements will be hampered.For you gentlemen, semi nudity can be very exciting for your partner.See your pectorals, even your little belly and back.Finally a man who dares to show his body!Sharing nudity, while keeping a dimension of mystery stimulates the brain.

• Do you whisper with your partner's ear of sweet words?Exchanging sweet words to the other's ear, sexy words not only in bed but everywhere, stimulates the central nervous system, excites erogenous areas.If your partner has developed a deafness as you get older, the sexy words that you are slowly sharing in the ear will excite you and it is contagious.

• Do you know your partner's body without taking it for granted?Oh surprise!Do not imagine knowing the body of the other perfectly, take the time to continue to discover it.Get fire by exploring your own body sensually in the presence of the other and continue with your partner's body.The bodily exchange is healthy if there is no hostage taking of the other's body.Be careful, playing domination and slavery can be part of erotic games, however make sure that this desire is shared.

• Do you play erotically?To love to play, to create erotic games, to live erotic theater, to be actors in your own sex life is part of erotic intelligence.Couples whose sexuality continues have developed erotic creativity and continue to cultivate it.They thus know how to maintain the mystery in the act of making love with love.

• Do you like to feel good?The sense of smell is the first sense to develop in the baby, and this meaning is far from leaving us.Stimulating desire, sexual appetite is also lived by smell.The odors who enchanting are part of the lost sexuality.

• Do you know the animal in you?The woman and the wild man who lives in you?Recognizing his animal strength, his wild strength is a step in knowledge of self and the other.Even more, if you let this life energy live in your sexuality and your couple's sex life.Living your animal strength is living your instinctive, intuitive and sensual power, even better to unite it with your spiritual strength.This allows you to raise you while being a divinely wild woman and man.

• Are you going to see elsewhere to better choose again? Eh yes ! Going to see elsewhere is part of what is necessary to reposition itself in a sexuality that has died out of habit. Isn't it normal to desire someone other than his wife or man after 20 years of common life? The couples who persist recognize him and are not afraid of this confrontation. Thank goodness, otherwise the couple falls asleep. To live this key, it is important to have a bond of self -confidence and in the other. Daring this change of position is lived in ethics. A change always involves a risk. The latter can be stimulating if communication exists in you and between both of you. This risk can be taken alone, if you are able to assume it (doubts, fears, guilt) while keeping your secret gardens. Going to see elsewhere is part of a therapeutic path which is practiced in consciousness. The partner who chooses her is responsible for his authenticity towards himself and the others; be the lover or the mistress and the partner. Do not promise anything that is not possible, to be clear. Everything is possible. On the other hand, if this experience leads you to a double life you risk putting your life as a couple in danger. I have known couples where this experience was open over a period of time and they found themselves sexually with joy to continue their lives together. Going to see elsewhere to find yourself and not to get lost in another relationship and relive the same difficulties.

• Are you still in love? This is the last point. A couple that lasts and creates their sex life is a loving couple. Easy to say because a lot of couples who have lived together for years are always in love even if their sex life is sad. Being in love is part of an interior position where nothing is acquired. One position where the other is the other and I am me. Remember that even your body needs to differentiate itself from the partner's body to better live the sensual bond. So avoid "us". On the contrary, name the name of your partner in love. What is very dangerous is the use of "dad" names, "mom" when we talk to her partner. Couples who love each other to bed have differentiated. They are called by their reciprocal name accompanied by sweet words. They are not only parents. They are also men and women who live their vital strength by the expression of a sexual and emotional love. They are full -fledged individuals.

Finally we guessed these x things that the couples that last, do in bed?

Marie Lise Labonté is the author of: "Make love with love".Publication September 2016 at Guy Trédaniel.

Marie-Lise Labonté

Psychotherapist, author and trainer